Throuple drama as girlfriend invites ChatGPT to settle arguments: it’s more common than you think

One Redditor was having some relationship problems, and artificial intelligence only made things worse.

People go to Reddit for a range of things, like asking for advice or looking for answers. But this Reddit post highlights our reliance on artificial intelligence and how it’s slowly seeping into the most intimate corners of our lives.

“Am I the asshole for asking her to stop using ChatGPT in this context?” one Reddit user said on the r/AITAH subreddit.

The Reddit user ‘drawss4scoress’ was looking for answers and possibly a bit of validation regarding their partner's behavior and reliance on ChatGPT to resolve their disputes.

‘Drawss4scoress’ provides some context about the relationship, saying that they are 25, their girlfriend is 28, and they have been dating for the past eight months.

“We’ve had a couple of big arguments and some smaller disagreements recently…each time we argue, my girlfriend will go away and discuss the argument with ChatGPT, even doing so in the same room sometimes,” they said.

Ok, that’s a bit weird, but surely she can’t really be using the words of a chatbot to argue back? Well, that’s exactly what she’s doing.

“Whenever she does this, she’ll then come back with a well-constructed argument, breaking down everything I said or did during our argument.”

Alright, maybe she’s gathering her thoughts together and just trying to actually resolve the issue with a neutral third party. But as you probably guessed, ChatGPT isn’t exactly sitting on the fence.

“I feel like I’m being ambushed with the thoughts and opinions of a robot,” the Redditor said.

‘Drawss4scoress’ is almost resentful of ChatGPT, as they say that no human could easily recall every minor detail of an argument and break it down into a succinct argument, but apparently, “AI has no issue doing so.”

Despite voicing their concerns, the girlfriend just seems to regurgitate the ramblings of a chatbot, saying things like “ChatGPT says you're insecure” or “ChatGPT says you don’t have the emotional bandwidth to understand what I’m saying.”

While chatbots can be used for a range of reasons and could even be helpful when resolving conflicts (trust me, I’ve tried), the Redditor has a problem with the way their girlfriend is constructing her prompts.

“My big issue is it’s her formulating the prompts, so if she explains that I’m in the wrong, it’s going to agree without me having a chance to explain things,” they said.

AI picks sides

ChatGPT can be used for a range of purposes, but it can be biased, particularly if you input prompts in the right way.

Also, I personally found that when I let ChatGPT control my life for a day, it’s a people-pleaser. So, whoever is using the chatbot will receive agreeable answers.

Therefore, using it to resolve a dispute in a fair manner won’t be feasible, as the chatbot will inevitably agree with the user who is inputting the prompts.

This may add fuel to the fire and make the already annoyed partner (girlfriend in this case) even more riled up. It is a lose-lose situation if you ask me.

Reddit users responded to the post, which received almost 300 comments and nearly 400 upvotes, by saying that they should fight fire with fire.

“Respond with ChatGPT until she gets the point,” one Reddit user said. “Or just break up with her. Who wants a robot for a girlfriend,” another said.

Others expressed that the girlfriend should go and date ChatGPT if she is that dependent, and users also said that they should show their girlfriend how biased ChatGPT can be.

But are they the asshole, or is this a reasonable request?

Well, AI seems to be a part of everyone's lives in a certain capacity, and it seems that ChatGPT is becoming a sort of third party in most relationships.